“I don’t want to!”
“I didn’t say I would…”
“Something else came up.”
“I don’t feel like it!”
Have you ever had any of those thoughts? Ever said any of those things out loud?
Has any of the above ever seemed to directly prevent you from fulfilling on important commitments? Maybe repeatedly, even?
If so, welcome to the club! You are like the rest of us: challenged to do what it takes to fulfill on all of your commitments. While it is very tempting, and easy, to generalize as such, this difficulty is not the result of being lazy, irresponsible or incompetent. It is, however, an expression of, and an indicator of, your relationship to 1) that to which you’ve committed yourself, 2) the nature of commitment itself, and 3) integrity.
Said another way, the source of the problem isn’t what we know or don’t know; it isn’t in what we don’t know about ourselves or about a particular commitment. But it does lie in the usually unexamined and hidden network of interpretations, beliefs, and assumptions that constrain and shape our viewpoints, thoughts, moods, and actions.